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26th October 2013, 12:53 PM
1. Starting Out On The Defensive
Ironically, the mistake a lot of men make when it comes to approaching women simply fearing the worst. This isn’t always true (at all), but once you start believing it is you’ll immediately be on the back foot, trying to think of solutions to problems that really, haven’t even arisen. The last thing you want to do is see any woman as a ‘challenge’ or as though you need to learn any ‘tricks‘ to persuade potential partners to talk to you. Doing this will be what puts women off (just like doing that with a guy friend would put him off wanting to hang out with you), not the things you were initially worried about. Forget what you’ve heard, approaching a woman is not about game-playing. Women (fun, nice women that you’d actually enjoy spending time with) will always rather get to know a friendly guy who means what he says than someone who’s trying to play it cool (and is therefore quite boring and mean).

2. Approaching Women In The Wrong Place
No, we’re not talking about place on the body. Everywhere you go is not a pick up zone — you have to thoughtfully work out where you can actually approach women you don’t know. There is no point striking up conversation with a potential partner if they are already in a situation where they don’t feel like flirting: you’re dooming yourself to failure. A prime example of a no-go area is the gym, when testosterone is running high and you feel like you’re at your peak, it can be tempting to put the moves on someone you like the look of, but you’re actually making flirting much more difficult for yourself. If a woman is working out, she’ll be in the zone, and even more importantly, feeling really sweaty. Chatting to a stranger is likely to be pretty far down her list of priorities. Instead, it’s a safe bet to stick to bars, when women are more often than not feeling their best and already in the mood for socialising and open to getting to know people. The buzzy atmosphere of a bar also means that you can casually make conversation with less fear of rejection. It’s not all about bars though. Friends of friends, activity groups and evening classes can be a brilliant way to meet people with whom you share similar interests. Building organically on friendship to potential dates, rather than the quick insta-fix of the drunken chat up line, will more naturally develop into a relationship (if that’s what you’re looking for).

3. Assuming She’s Out ‘On The Pull’
Going out with your friends is fun, dancing is fun, and drinking is fun. Although it might not be what you want to hear, the truth is that often these are the most common reasons women will be together on a night out. Sometimes groups of friends will be happy to include you in the party, but be prepared that chances are that most people won’t be that interested in hanging out with strangers when they’re out to have a laugh with their mates. And if you get the vibe that you’ve interrupted a night that you’re not welcome on (if she’s not continuing the conversation, if she’s more interested in her friends) then just amicably excuse yourself to the bar and carry on with your night. Of course, hooking up is fun too — but just be aware that most people aren’t up all night to get lucky.

4. Being Too Drunk
Being with a man who is in control is important to women. (Most of us) don’t want to be with a guy we have to force feed water during a night out, help go to the loo or keep from getting into fights at the bar. You’re also way more to get distracted from the woman you’re trying to talk to by other women (an immediate red flag), slur your words and just be generally unapologetic and annoying. Until you’re well into a relationship, avoid getting too drunk.

5. Using Pickup Lines
Sorry, guys, but everything you’ve learned about using pickup lines to start a conversation with women is dead wrong. There is nothing cheesier, less interesting or more of a turnoff than a guy who uses a standard opening line. Why? It shows he lacks confidence, period. It shows he’s literally spent time reading up on the best way to approach a woman (a fact which should never be admitted) and that he needs other guys to tell him what to say and how to act. Whatever you do, a simple hello is better than a canned line.

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